Payback
for Carol
It may have been eighth grade, but more likely seventh.
Phys ed class in the gym, something I usually enjoyed.
But this day there were girls on one side of the gym
and we boys were on the other, and the sport was
dancing.
I felt cheated, compromised.
As a boy who was never all that macho to begin with,
I would have made a classic homophobe if I’d known
what it meant or that it was an option,
but I thought I could make some kind of statement
by refusing to have anything to do with girls.
At eleven or twelve, where do we get our ideas?
Our phys ed teacher was a guy named Bill Cronin
who had been known as Bull when he played fullback
at Boston College. My father the coach knew him;
they were friends.
When we boys were instructed to walk to the center
of the gym and pair off with girls, I refused to go—
I, Bookworm, Brainiac, the goody-goody;
this the moment I chose to become the rebel,
this my first ever hot-button issue.
Bill the Bull Cronin wrapped his meaty left hand
around my skinny right bicep and attempted
to march me to the center of the floor.
I resisted with all the furious authority of my 89 pounds.
I actually said, sotto voce, “Take your hands off me, Cronin.”
Wonder of wonders, he did.
I thought, “I am in deep shit,” although, now I think of it,
in those days I would not have said shit in even my internal dialogues.
Nothing ever came of it. I got my way;
I didn’t have to learn to dance.
The incident was never mentioned,
and I was never punished.
Until today; some—what? 50-odd years later.
You and I are playing Scrabble; the TV is
set to music from the Americana station,
“Poor Man’s Paradise,” by the subdudes.
While I puzzle over my next move you get up
to turn on the teakettle and within two steps,
without even being conscious that you’re doing it,
you in all your amazing grace are
dancing,
and I wish to God I could be
dancing with you.